This weekend at a bonfire, one of my friends shared with us that when he marries his future wife, he wants to promise her “I will never leave you or forsake you,” because he believes so strongly that the covenant he hopes to make one day is to be a picture of Christ and the church. And I remember thinking that was the most beautiful thing I’d ever heard anyone say about the covenant of marriage. Oddly enough, the doctrine upon which his statement stands is not new to me. In fact, God’s design for biblical man and womanhood is something that has been dear to my heart as long as I’ve been a believer. But I so rarely get to discuss it with other singles. Somehow, it seems the topic is only practically and conversationally important to married couples and I don’t understand why nor am I satisfied with that as status quo. And I think the apostle Paul would have agreed.
“But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine. Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled.” – Titus 2:1-6
I count seven exhortations to biblical manhood and ten to biblical womanhood in these six verses, and only two of them have to do with being married. And this “training” seems to be necessary in all generations.
What are your thoughts?
Allow me to share one more of mine. It came to me last night as I was reading “A Sweet and Bitter Providence”. I’m certain that what I’m thinking is in stark contrast from what Ruth was experiencing when she said it, but if I ever get married, I want to look in the eyes of my husband and say,
“Where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you.” – Ruth 1:16-17
Music: Marc Heinrich – “Only Jesus”