Let me first say that I trembled over writing this. The LORD who inspired 1 Timothy 2:12 is the reason for my trembling. But it needs to be said. So I present what’s on my heart to you here for your consideration, comments, and correction. And ladies, if I’ve misrepresented us, speak up.
I have a tendency to get bored with my music collection. It happened on my way home from this evening and I decided to give the radio a shot. I didn’t want to listen to anything secular, but KTIS generally smacks of saccharin. Skeptical, I flicked the preset on my stereo. The song I heard sort of surprised me. At first, I thought it might have a really strong message… and then I realized that message was lacking not only the Gospel and the name that is above every name, Jesus Christ, but utterly fails to really address the issue.
You can listen and read the lyrics if you want, but the gist of the song is in the first few lines:
“Little girl, 14, flipping through a magazine, says she wants to look that way. But her hair isn’t straight, her body isn’t fake, and she’s always felt overweight. Little girl, 14, I wish that you could see that beauty is within your heart and you were made with such care, your skin, your body, and your hair are perfect just the way they are. There could never be a more beautiful you. Don’t buy the lies, disguises, and hoops they make you jump through. You were made to fill a purpose that only you could do, so there could never be a more beautiful you.”
He goes on to apply the same principles to a 21 year-old. And here’s my beef. The catalyst for this problem, (and yes, it is a REAL problem for most women) is not that women don’t have the ability to discern that airbrushed and Photoshopped models in magazines do not define “true beauty”. In fact, I’d venture to say that most women know full well “it’s what’s inside that counts” and that most Christian women probably have Proverbs 31:30 memorized. So if women know all these things, then why are so many of us still striving and longing to look “beautiful” as our culture has defined the word? I’m very thankful for men like Mr. Diaz who see this problem and speak up about it. But like all things in this life we’ve been called to, we can’t stop at identifying the problem and wishing it were different.
I’m speaking especially to my single brothers in Christ: when was the last time you looked at a woman like charm was deceptive and beauty was vain?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that I think men are directly responsible for the insecurities of women. A woman with an envious and covetous heart breeds bitterness and discontentment,and she is solely responsible for that mess. And praise the Lord, Christ died for that mess! But if you, brother, as a new creation in Christ, don’t value what the world values and truly believe that Proverbs 31 is the definition of a beautiful, godly woman – then why are so many beautiful, godly women flipping through magazines on a Saturday night instead of being pursued by you? Obviously, not everyone’s called to marriage and I certainly don’t believe you’re called to pursue every beautiful, godly woman that crosses your path. But I’d still like to challenge you to be an even stronger leader for us – how can you encourage the women in your sphere of influence to fight the lies the Enemy wants them to believe about what makes them beautiful?
Yes, please, guard our hearts. Think about it, pray about it, be careful with your words, and make your intentions crystal clear. But please, don’t let us let the culture drown out the voice of Christ on this. Being salt and light is just too important.